A relational syndrome?

Written October 24, 2007

Why is it that girls have such a hard time letting go? Why do we feel the need to hold on to something until we have fixed whatever is wrong with it? We are not Christ, God did not send us to earth to redeem the lost and fix the broken. There are times that we just need to let go of what we think will get better and place them into God’s hands, hands that ARE capable of fixing what is broken.

Why do we feel the need to put up with what we don’t deserve? So many girls stay in dating relationships because they FEEL love for a guy that doesn’t even care enough to give them the respect they deserve. FEELING love and deciding to love are two different things and I’m pretty sure we’ve missed that difference.

The way we are wired can get off course if we don’t find our confidence in Christ. If we don’t experience the love of God we will never be satisfied in an earthly romance because we are using it to fulfill our desires for acceptance and confidence. A man cannot give this to us; our friends cannot give this to us. God alone gives this to us and blesses us with people to share in His love. I believe we’ve gotten in backwards.

What is really scary is that I see this trend happening younger and younger in girls. Self-esteem issues are beginning to occur in children and without the Holy Spirit being allowed to grip their lives with love, it could turn into years of a dead end pattern. Loving parents become crucial in this situation and are a child’s first experience of unconditional love. For the girls that grow up without loving parents or without parents at all, it is our responsibility as Christians to reach out, to demonstrate God’s love in our everyday lives. By allowing Christ to live through us and getting ourselves out of the way, more people can see that God IS real and His love DOES exist.
Maybe this is why Christ talks so much about us loving our neighbor, why John speaks so much about Christ’s call to love. Without genuine love from Christ and living it out, no one can see what Christ came to do; no one can see that God’s love is powerful. Before we can enjoy the fullness of earthly love, we must first allow the power of God’s love to consume us and fulfill us.